The heart-based soul of Bessie Estonactoc stands in silent tribute to the woman she has unfolded: passionate about her work, offering hope to others, non-offensive words of gentle correction, and mindfulness of the moment. Bessie has been a life-long student in the self-help genre, stemming from her desire to know herself. Like so many others, early challenges fostered growing. Along her life path, she discovered a fount of self love.
Bessie has been in the mental health and counseling field for over 15 years beginning as a Counselor in CA for abused, abandoned and neglected boys at a San Francisco, CA agency to a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing in Waialua, HI serving couples and individuals on the island of Oahu.
She has been married to Jack Estonactoc for 36 years. Their early years were initially challenging, so they attended couples counseling where they both honed their communication skills. Imago has transformed their relationship tremendously. Bessie and Jack are a committed couple always willing to communicate and understand each other's perspectives. When Bessie counsels couples, she’s practices what she teaches.
Bessie and Jack have two children, and they became her priority, but after they finished high school, Bessie went back to school and graduated with her Masters in Counseling Psychology with a Marriage and Family Therapy emphasis from Argosy University in Honolulu, HI. She realized early on that counseling couples was one of her passions. From her own life, she understood how releasing stories from the past can help a struggling relationship. Additionally, when couples have their own children, becoming role models as parents with intentional and connected communication is key in promoting and fostering the same for the next generations to come.
Continuing her acquisition of counseling skills, Bessie became one of the two therapists on the Island who offer Imago Relationship Therapy. Bessie was trained for one year to be an Imago Relationship Therapist with her Imago teachers in Pasadena, CA. Jack went with her for the first weekend teaching them both compassion for one another. Using the loving and respectful Imago Dialog, she and Jack gained insight into their own childhood stories. Bessie knew that Imago would be a valuable modality to add for couples and has witnessed couples transform the couple relationship and relationship with their family members.
In her next pivotal experience, Bessie’s mom came and lived with her and Jack for seven years at the age of seventy seven. This period of time allowed Bessie and her mom’s relationship to deepen its loving bonds, to discuss spirituality and death and dying, and to exercise kindness, compassion, and forgiveness through understanding. Bessie says “Life is too short. Be present, loving, and kind toward yourself as well as others.”
Bessie’s interest in yoga led her to become a Registered Yoga Teacher (RYT 200) with Yoga Loft Hawaii because she wanted to learn good form, hone in on her practice of mindfulness, to use full body movement for her Mind-Body connection and to align herself with spiritual and meditation practices essential to her daily life responsibilities. Bessie did not permit her age to become an impediment to learning yoga. Bessie hopes to inspire other seniors or those new to yoga on how to live yoga "on and off the mat" no matter what age.
Bessie is a life-long learner and her next step forward to offer another service to her clients was to become a Clinical Hypnotherapist focusing on Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy® trained at The Wellness Institute in Issaquah, WA. Bessie continues to hone in on her hypnotherapy skills continuing with Advanced Hypnotherapy training at The Wellness Institute. She believes this tool allows her and her clients to tap into the subconscious and learn the why of life. Bessie has been able to witness clients make tremendous headway in their healing through hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy is a way to assist in the retrieval of the clients’ stories so that they can begin their healing journey, unleashing old stories that no longer serve them so that they can truly shine their Light. Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool allowing people to peel back layers and to enjoy living in a more peaceful, loving way in the here and now rather than being plagued by the past or future.
Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work; you don't give up.
- Anne Lamott
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