“I begin with the end in mind, so that I can see each of my clients well, healthy, and happy. Then, I gently and lovingly show them how to attain their vision.”
- BESSIE ESTONACTOC
Couples Counseling Are you experiencing stress in your relationship? Do you and your partner constantly argue with one another and feel stuck?
One of the fastest ways you can leave your cocoon to discover more about yourself is by being in a relationship, because that is where many of the challenges arise. If you learn the lessons for you inside those challenges, it’s the fast track to perfect harmony.
Communication skills are the biggest piece of couples counseling: learning that you each deserve a voice and then, having the courage to use it. Great communication involves both speaking and listening. I provide a safe space for communicating honestly. In this safe space, each partner can open up to share formerly buried emotions and old stories from their past that is affecting the current relationship.
Imago Relationship Therapy founded by Harville Hendrix, author of “Getting the Love You Want,” escalates great communication and healing inside a relationship. It serves to eliminate negativity between couples. I use this technique with great results.
Couples Counseling is a great way to clarify issues for those in a relationship, married or contemplating marriage who recognize communication problems adding stress to the relationship. I'd love to support at whatever stage you're at in your relationship. Some have said it adds spice to their lives!
What one couple had to say about Bessie: "Aloha, what can we say about Bessie? Well, when we came to see her about 2 years into our relationship we were very close to splitting up. Our communication was negative, the relationship had become toxic, and we couldn’t seem to break out of unhealthy patterns. Seeing a counselor/coach was pretty much a last resort. Bessie is a skilled Imago teacher and gave us practice time with coaching in our sessions as well as ‘homework’ to build our Imago communication. She is also a very real, down-to-earth soul who gently, lovingly and, when called for, firmly guided us to becoming better partners. The love we felt when we first met blossomed again and we got engaged and married, with Bessie as an honored guest at the reception. We both know we would not have made it without her! We were both willing to drive 1 hour each way from Honolulu to the North Shore to meet her, and have continued to do so happily ever since. We still go back when life throws us a curve ball or we find ourselves back in negative patterns. We always leave with lighter hearts, shared laughter, new tools, and the willingness to love each other better. Could two people who love each other ask for anything more?" Thank you Bessie! xo Kris & Kimo Chung
Individual Counseling Are you experiencing a major challenge in your life and need support? Are you so stressed out and unable to focus on your daily responsibilities because of the challenges you are experiencing?
When you are wrapped tightly in a ball of feeling stressed, unsure, depressed or afraid like the butterfly in his cocoon, and you know you need guidance to feel relieved, these problems and many others are addressed through Individual Counseling. I love to listen to you because I know from that simple beginning, much good flows.
Because you are the sum total of all that you have thought before we met, I feel privileged to hear your life story so that I can see how you arrived at “today.” Then, we’ll work together to clarify your core beliefs so that your forward progress can begin refreshed in achieving your dreams, visions and desires.
It is possible to resolve depression, anxiety, stress, self-esteem issues, grief, and addiction through individual therapy. We will work together to come up with a plan that you are visioning based on the services I offer. I’d love to partner with you and guide you through these challenges.
I offer individual, transpersonal counseling and coaching with the goal of teaching you how to shift your energies, expand your consciousness, your mindset, so that you can embrace your right-now moments with love and acceptance.
What an individual had to say about working with Bessie: I came to Bessie during the worst personal crisis of my life when I was uncertain and unhappy about my relationship and my career. She helped me understand the source of my unhappiness and helped me follow those deep roots of suffering and completely opened me up to understand I had been holding grudges with family members for decades that were completely affecting my relationships. She taught me communication techniques to use with my girlfriend (now my wife) that opened a new level of understanding between us which ultimately brought us closer and tightened our compassion and understanding towards each other. But besides being great at listening and offering incredible insight and tools to improve my life, she just has that motherly, sweet, compassionate demeanor that we all need in our lives especially when searching for peace and understanding. I always felt like she was on my team and was there for me -not to judge but to observe and to listen and to offer her kind perspective. I feel so lucky to have found Bessie when I was at such a significant crossroad in my life and I feel that what I learned from her compassionate insight is the reason I feel so at peace with my life today and for the years since our time together. - Aaron Ungerleider
Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy® Are you ready to unleash your old stories, habits or behaviors? Would you like to live more in the 'now' rather worry about the past or future?
You are a Child of the Light, but sometimes you aren’t fully aware of that. Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy® is a powerful therapeutic tool that increases life improvements, whether it’s about changing lifetime habits, channeling negative emotions to more positive ones, blocked energy, or deepening your spiritual connection. I love to help people embrace their own Light.
The individual work I do with individual clients is hypnotherapy, not hypnosis.The difference between hypnosis and hypnotherapy is that hypnosis works by giving suggestions in an altered state. Hypnotherapy works by resolving inner conflicts and dissolving inner trauma to emerge as a transformed person. I guide you by going into a relaxed, awake state, and you begin to tap into your subconscious mind to access the old stories. As the above glacier depicts 10% is our conscious mind, which holds short-term memory, analyzes, thinks and plans. 90% is our subconscious mind which holds long term memory, emotions and feelings, habit patterns, relationship patterns, addictions, spiritual connection to name a few.
The tools and techniques of hypnotherapy are customized for your life to boost your healing so that you can experience dynamic results fairly quickly.
If you’d like to learn how to step out into the Light, to manifest goals, increase your wellness, change addictive habits, lose your sense of victimization, see and stop co-dependency, break attachment disorders, heal birthing issues, or heal from sexual abuse, hypnotherapy can help you gain freedom from these and other challenges.
What two individuals had to say about Bessie: "The hypnotherapy session gave me the chance of revisiting past situations that I have had removed or at least forgot about. Being used to working on my subconscious mind I was able, thanks to Bessie and her guidance, release a lot of negativity and was able to continue to process even after the session. It helped me feel so confident that I was able to manifest a relationship. I definitely believe in hypnotherapy and I am sure with more sessions I would get more out of it." Mahalo, SF
"I had a hypnotherapy session with Bessie that was incredible. In her session she was calm, thorough, and compassionate. The repeating pattern I wished to change in my life through hypnotherapy was not feeling supported. Through the session we found the root of this belief, and changed it to 'loved, supported, and taken care of'. With recent health challenges, I have had to completely let go, and allow others to take care of me. Even though not an ideal situation, I now get to fully immerse myself with the newfound energy of 'loved, supported, and taken care of'. We never know what life may present to us, but with a healthy mindset we can synch up and know it's all for a bigger purpose. Without the session with Bessie I'm not too sure how I would handle this situation! Grateful for the entire experience!" Thank you again Bessie! -Blythe
As a part of Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy, TRIM-LIFE is a method specifically created for weight and food-related issues. In participating in the TRIM-LIFE hypnotherapy program, I will help you to integrate your dreams and your desires so that you feel empowered about your bodily size as well as heal your relationship with yourself and with food.
As a woman, I recognize the stress women endure for the sake of appearance and therefore, perceived acceptance. We women are a strong-minded lot, and we devise methods that aren’t ultimately helpful for us, even though they help us achieve “the look.”
If you are dealing with any of these in your life, my 6-week TRIM-LIFE program can help you with:
You can manage both your hunger and your weight through considering your body, your mind and your spirit. Using the Trim-Life hypnotherapy method, I can teach you how.
Here's what we'll cover in the six weeks:
Week 1: "What Are You Really Hungry For?" Week 2: Metabolism and Motivation for Physical Activity Week 3: Emotional Eating Patterns Week 4: Discovering the Hidden Shadow Parts Week 5: The Nourishment Barrier and Introduction to Shock Week 6: Eliminating Perfectionism and Procrastination
You will receive a flash drive for each week's hypnosis recordings, books and manual.
Please note: Trim-Life is not covered by insurance. If you are interested, please contact me if you'd like more information on this program or wish to sign up. I look forward to connecting with you!!!
A Trim-Life Testimonial: “I knew that my issues with my weight or constantly gaining weight went deeper than just my love for food. My weight was a symptom and I needed to find the root cause. Bessie approached me and genuinely wanted to help me. To help me understand that it was more than just what appeared on the surface. She guided me into realizing that it was a lot deeper than I thought. Identifying those issues and freeing myself of those unwanted feelings and emotions and help me regain control of my life. Thank you Bessie for reaching out to me and giving me the resources to continue my journey to a healthier me.” - Leonard Keao, Jr.